It seems to me that many mothers get handed the brunt of the home education responsibility while dads seem to be mainly responsible for earning the dough to keep the roof over the house.
Well I dispute that. I for one feel that dads can and should try to be more involved in the home education of their children. Dads are very important role models for their children.
When I first started out home educating, my husband was skeptical. He was, as any typical schooled adult would be, apprehensive that kids will be doomed if they did not attend school, despite not having done very well in school himself. Whereas I just knew that home education can work so well with my kids. I’d done a lot of soul-searching, a lot of research into home ed for years before taking the plunge. And I am certain home education would have worked wonders for me and my husband respectively, if we’d been given the chance when we were children. In the beginning of our home ed journey, I was steering the “home ed ship” while my husband just followed and sailed along with me. Unsure, but he followed anyway. Which is nice. Over time, he saw the light and became much more involved in this endeavour. He’d seen that home ed works. Our kids do learn and evolve day by day, even without being forced to endure lessons in things they aren’t interested in.
You see, we’ve never been the kind of kids who paid attention in class. Or liked following rules just because rules were there. We had interests which we’d be happy to pursue all day long every day if given the chance, and whatever we felt had no bearing at all on our interests, we felt it pointless to be forced to go through the motions and study for exams in them just for the sake of well, graduating.
We both graduated high school in the end. I did well but I was always a bit of an impetuous, inquisitive, dreamy, closet bookworm in school so yes, I was kinda made for academics in a way, even though I was always interested in other things like art and music. If you asked me what is my biggest regret looking back at my younger days, I would say I wish I had pursued my interests in art and music more and not wasted so much time on academia – but in truth, I was completely brainwashed by my mum and dad to value academia over art/music at that time. Unfortunately so.
My husband on the other hand, didn’t do so well at school, but I think he was the opposite. His parents were not crazy about academics, and so never pushed him nor made him feel that academics were crucial for happiness or success in life. If I asked him what his greatest regret is regarding his childhood days, he would tell me he wished he had worked a little harder in school and gotten better grades.
Yeah, yeah, I know. Grass is always greener on the other side and all that. But I also realised that we complement each other very well.
I think its fab that my husband was hard at work on the sewing machine last weekend making new curtains for the caravan in a cool VW vintage campervan print fabric. Defying society’s stifling old fashioned gender roles… No. Sewing is not just a woman’s activity. It can be anyone’s. We’re no longer living in the stone age. And my kids will grow up knowing this. Good for them.
My husband’s mum had a role to play in all this. She taught my husband to sew and cook from young. It has never been ingrained into his psyche that sewing and cooking are “just for women”. And you can be sure this is exactly what I will be teaching my son, as well as reassuring my daughters that just because they are girls, doesn’t mean they have to rely on their looks or on men for their survival. Being female doesn’t mean they will have to be in charge of household chores and needlework when they become wives and/or mothers.
We bought a caravan a few weeks back. It’s not the newest model, cost about £800 and needed some repair work done to it, but my husband really enjoyed doing all that stuff. He loves working with his hands. Commonsensical. Practical. Salt of the earth. Just what I am not. LOL… and I love him for all that.
So you see, home education is not just mainly a mother’s role.
Dads can play very vital roles as well in this home ed malarkey, and it is something I know their kids will benefit from enormously.